The Gift of Silence

The Gift of Silence

Psalm 62 declares, “For God alone, my soul waits in silence…”

I remember quite a number of years ago, my wife Robbie took a class at Memorial Presbyterian Church on Christian mediation. It was taught by our friend Marc Craddock. 

After a really basic introduction, Marc asked them to sit in silence for five minutes. You might think, five minutes, no big deal. But Robbie said she felt like she was coming out of her skin! It was really hard. And then she thought to herself: This is a problem. If I can’t sit in silence for even five minutes, something is wrong.

That started her on a path…Silence is now a regular part of her morning routine.

I guess I began my own journey with silence about the same time as Robbie. She kind of dragged me into this mediation thing. Actually, it has been a great thing for me. About a year and a half ago, I wanted to extend and deepen this practice. I decided to undertake a three-day silent retreat at a Trappist monetary up in South Carolina. Going from 20-30 minutes each morning to three full days was not easy! In fact, at the end of the first day, I thought to myself, “I’m going home! I can’t do this!”

But, I’m so glad I stayed. That extended period of silence worked on something deep within me. I felt God’s Spirit stirring in my life. It helped me put together all the pieces of the last few months at the end of my sabbatical. I came out of the time truly feeling as though my soul was restored.

I wonder how our lives would look if we were able to reduce just a little of the noise and chatter around us. If we were able to carve out even a little time each day to sit silently in God’s presence…? What if, for thirty minutes each day, we were to turn off the ringers, the notifications, the TV, the iPad, and listen for that still small voice?

I don’t know how this might look for you. But I do know, if you can find it, it is a gift.

Let us pray: Holy God, as we embrace a moment of stillness even now, we ask for Your presence to envelop us. In the relative quiet, speak to our hearts… Strengthen us. Renew us. Fill us with your peace. Amen.

Inner Peace

Inner Peace

Psalm 62 is a confession of faith. Twice within just a few verses, the psalmist testifies: For God alone, my soul waits… He alone is my rock and my salvation… my fortress; I shall never be shaken.

That is a profound statement of trust.

And yet, at the same time, there is realism. There is a recognition that things have not always been so great; that the world around him was anything but stable. He cries out against those who have betrayed him: How long will you assail a person? How long will you batter your victim? 

And then, “…if riches increase, do not set your heart on them…” 

As if to say, some of the things I counted on have let me down… 

We know all about this, don’t we? As beautiful as life is, there are moments when everything we know to be true crumbles. There are moments that break our hearts; and moments when the load we carry seems too much to bear. There are times when we find ourselves confused and unsure…

I appreciate the reality of the psalm – that it names some of the struggles we face in life. And yet I can also appreciate, for the psalmist, even though all this, there is an inner strength, a sense of underlying peace – a faith that cannot be shaken. 

I don’t know about you, but I want that inner strength, that inner peace. 

The Psalm begins: For God alone, my soul waits in silence… 

Let us pray: Loving God, we wait for you even now… Help us to carve out time in our lives to sit in your presence to allow your grace to wash over us and to listen for your still small voice…. Heal us. Renew us. And grant us your peace. We ask in Jesus’ name. Amen.

When We Are Knocked Down

When We Are Knocked Down

Today’s message was written by my friend Rev. Roger Kunkel, founder of Dial Hope.

Years ago, on one of the Monday night football telecasts, the sportscasters were discussing the great running backs of professional football history. When they came to the late Walter Payton of the Chicago Bears, they pointed out that he was the all-time leading ground gainer in the National Football League. Then Frank Gifford said, “What a runner! Do you realize that all together, Walter Payton gained more than nine miles rushing in his career? Just imagine that, more than nine miles!” To which to other sportscaster, Dan Dierdorff responded, “And to think that every 4.6 yards of the way, someone was knocking him down!” 

Well, it happens not just in football. It’s true also in life. We do get knocked down a lot. The truth is that every now and then life will break our hearts! And the question is, how do we respond to that? How do we handle the defeats, the problems, the knock-downs, the pain, and endangering ourselves too much? We should follow the model of these men, who carried their friend to the feet of Jesus without accepting any alternatives. 

God can do amazing things. We know this, and we trust in it. And until there is no hope left, we should continue to commend those whom we love into God’s care. We should continue to await a miracle. God loves you, and God loves those whom you love. 

Prayer: Holy God, today I pray for my friends. I am worried about them, and I ask that you be with them. I ask that you bring healing to the damaging situation in their lives. I pray for you to help them, and I ask that you help me to stay with them, and care for them. I pray in Jesus’ name. Amen.

Smile!

Smile!

A number of years ago, I listened to a TED talk given by Ron Gutman who is an inventor, investor, and healthcare entrepreneur. Ron reviewed a host of studies about smiling and shared some amazing findings. 

Did you know that even when you are not happy, a simple smile will make you feel better? In fact, brain imaging studies have found that one smile gives us the equivalent boost of 2,000 bars of chocolate! And one smile also gives us the same boost as we’d feel if we received a gift of $25,000 cash! Studies have also found that smiling can also make you healthier. Smiling reduces the level of stress-inducing hormones, and increases the number of mood-enhancing ones. It also has been proven to lower blood pressure. A recent study out of Penn State found that smiling makes us look good in the eyes of others – not only more likable and courteous – but also more competent. On top of all that, smiling is contagious. It is very difficult to frown when looking at a smiling face!

Mother Teresa once said, “I will never understand all the good that a simple smile can accomplish.” 

Smile!

Let us pray: We thank you, Gracious God, for a built-in health enhancer, mood lifter, and attitude adjuster. Help us remember to make full use of our ability to smile. We smile even now as we remember your blessing in our lives, through Jesus Christ. Amen.

Inspired Joy

Inspired Joy

Sometime back in a Daily Walk devotional, there was an interesting list within a message titled, “How to be Miserable.” Sounds like good reading doesn’t it? Here’s part of the list: 

“Think about yourself. Talk about yourself. Use “I” as often as possible. Expect to be appreciated. Be suspicious. Be jealous and envious. Be sensitive to slights. Never forgive a criticism. Trust nobody but yourself. Insist on consideration and respect. Never forget a service you have rendered. Do as little as possible for others.”

In his letter to the Philippians, the Apostle Paul seems to give us the opposite advice. How to be joyful. In fact, this has to be one of his most joy-filled letters – in spite of the fact that he is writing from jail!

In chapter 2, Paul writes, “…make my joy complete… Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. Look not to your own interests but to the interest of others.”

Something happens when we get outside ourselves when we move beyond our own issues and concerns, and reach out to help others. And as we shift our energy and thoughts away from ourselves, we gain a larger perspective, and we make room for deeper joy and fulfillment.

Let us pray: God of Hope, some of us today are hurting very deeply. Some of us can’t even begin to imagine moving beyond the pain of the moment to have enough energy to take on other people’s problems. We ask you to meet each of us even now at the point of our deepest need. Surround us with your healing grace. And, even as we are being healed, use us as instruments of your healing and peace for others, fulfilled in your service. For we pray in the name of the One who came that we might have abundant life. Amen. 

Scars

Scars

Our message today was written by my friend, Rev. Roger Kunkel.

The poet Robert Frost wrote, “A voice said look me in the stars and tell me truly, men of earth… if all the soul-and-body scars were not too much to pay for birth.

Friend of Dial Hope, take a close look at your “soul-and-body scars.” Center upon one loss, hurt or tragedy. Was it caused from within or without, or both? How did you handle it? What kind of resources were helpful to you? Who stood by you? Have you moved through to the other side? If not, what concerns remain? Are you still hurting? If you wish, visit some more with the scar. Embrace your scar. Be gentle with yourself. Then, when ready, say farewell to it. The Apostle Paul reminds us, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13).

Let us pray: God of compassion, cover us with your wings as a mother spreads a blanket of love over a sleeping child. Come into our pain, our loss, and make us whole. Hold us close and sing us a lullaby of hope in the darkness. Bless us now so we may be a blessing to others. Through the amazing grace of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.

The Sure Foundation

The Sure Foundation

Sometime back, a friend was telling me about the summer after his father’s retirement party. His dad had held a prominent position with a big corporation, and that first summer he just went into this deep depression. My friend said it was like his dad woke up one morning and he realized he was no longer Chief Financial Officer – he was just another retiree at his country club. His identity was completely tied up in his work, and when it was time to retire, what was left? 

Sometimes we cling to a certain identity. And that identity may come from our job; or perhaps our political leanings, or perhaps our ability to make money, or even perhaps our identity as parents.

Over the years, I’ve known people who have given everything they are, everything they have into raising their children. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing. But for some people, it’s like that’s the only thing they lived for making sure the children could have what they couldn’t have – or being what they couldn’t be. If the children don’t live up to it – or when they move away – they are left empty. 

Imagine two different families, same town, same day. In one house, when the last child leaves, the husband says, “Honey, lock the doors! We’re going to celebrate!” But in another house, across town, on that same day, when the last child leaves, there is silence, emptiness – because husband and wife haven’t really talked in years. The children have been the only connection they’ve shared, and there’s no other foundation. 

What happens to the person whose identity and meaning are wrapped up in their career when they are downsized or face retirement? What happens to the person whose self-worth is tied up in their physical appearance as they grow older? Or, to the person whose hope for the future is that retirement account when the stock market falls or the medical bills begin to eat up the savings?

Yesterday, we read a passage of scripture in which the Apostle Paul reminds us that these things are fleeting… We don’t know how long they are with us.

It’s not that these things are necessarily bad in and of themselves. In fact, some of them make life rich. It’s just that Paul desperately wants the Corinthians (and us) to place our ultimate hope in something much more solid – something much bigger. And that is in Christ.

A couple of weeks ago, I was at a Wednesday evening dinner, and a friend of our church said to me, “Joe, the main thing is to keep the main thing, the main thing.” 

So true. 

What is the main thing, for you?

Let us pray: We remember that Jesus said that he came that we might have life – and have it in abundance… Help us to keep you at the heart and center of our lives, O God, that abundant life would be ours; through Jesus Christ. Amen. 

New Awareness

New Awareness

Yesterday, we reflected on Paul’s first letter to the Corinthians, chapter 7. He writes, “Brothers and sisters, the appointed time has grown short…”

Paul and the early church expected Jesus to return at any moment. 

The truth is: We don’t know how long we have. Whether Jesus comes back today, tomorrow, in 500 or even 5000 years, it is an inescapable fact of life that we don’t have forever; that all that is, is temporal, fleeting.

With that in mind, Paul continues this passage. He writes: 

…let even those who have wives be as though they had none, 
and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, 
…and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, 
…and those who buy as though they had no possessions, 
and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it.
For the present form of this world is passing away. 

(- 1 Corinthians 7:29-31)

Now I’m not quite sure what to do with all that – but here are a couple of thoughts.

Clearly, Paul was not suggesting that live without marriage or mourning or rejoicing or possessions. In fact, in this section of the letter, Paul writes very clearly about how husbands have a responsibility to their wives, wives to their husbands, and parents to their children. We’re still to have these relationships and to love deeply.

However, at the same time, it is important not to lose sight of the temporal nature of it all. And this is not a cause for despair – but for gratitude. Gratitude that suffering and loss do not get to have the last word. Gratitude that we can, even for a short period of time get to experience the beauty of life and love.

I think about a friend who had been diagnosed with stage four cancer. Talking with her, I remember her saying, “You know I didn’t want this. It’s not something I would ever wish for. I wouldn’t want it for anyone. But in some ways, this has been a gift. I’ve come to a much deeper sense of gratitude. I’ve come to appreciate each meal, each hug from a friend, each moment with my daughter, my husband… I’ve come to realize how precious it all is…because I don’t know how many more I’ll have.”

The truth is, we don’t know how many more we’ll have… 

My prayer today, as with yesterday, is that you and I be the kind of people who go through this life aware of how precarious and precious it all is. And, may our relationships, our decisions, and our faith be ever shaped by that insight.

Let us pray: Gracious God, may we take every opportunity to love more fiercely, to give more generously, to open our hearts more widely, and to build bridges; in your name. Amen.

The Time Has Grown Short

The Time Has Grown Short

In his first letter to the Corinthians, chapter 7, the Apostle Paul writes, “Brothers and sisters, the appointed time has grown short…For the present form of this world is passing away.” (See 1 Corinthians 7:29-31) 

This letter is rich. In this same letter, we have that great passage that is often read at weddings: Love is patient, love is kind… We have the passage about the church being like a body with all the different parts functioning together. We read about spiritual gifts, and there is a beautiful treatise on the hope of the resurrection. The letter is a treasure trove of insight into the human condition and the way in which God in Christ seeks to come into our lives. 

In the background of all of this, there was a deep-seated belief that drove everything else. Paul believed, and these early Christians believed, that Christ would return at any moment; and that God’s kingdom would come in its fullest sense within their lifetimes. This expectation lent a sense of urgency to their lives and ministries.

It is interesting how even today, I’ll often hear people say: I think the end times are near. Look at all the craziness happening in the world… All these signs point to Jesus’ coming back any minute. But people have been saying that since Paul’s day. And truly, we don’t know when…

What we do know is that Paul still hit on a profound truth: We don’t know how long we have. Whether Jesus comes back today, tomorrow, in 500 or even 5000 years, it is an inescapable fact of life that we don’t have forever; that all that is, is temporal, fleeting.

The writer Brian Koppelman makes the point that: “If you look at the great expanse of time, we’re not even a dot… And if you walk through life with the knowledge that one day, everything we love will be here no more, for me, it makes me love harder… more fiercely. It makes me want to be more expansive, more giving, and more connected. It makes me aware of how fortunate I am to be present in this moment…” 

May you and I be the kind of people who go through this life aware of how precarious and precious it all is. May we live with a deep sense of gratitude for the time we have been given, and the time we have left. And, may our relationships, our decisions, and our faith be ever shaped by that insight.

Let us pray: We are grateful, O God, for the gift of this life, and for the promise that in life and in death, we belong to you. In the time we have been given, help us to love more fiercely, to give more generously, to open our hearts more widely, and to build bridges; in Jesus’ name. Amen.

God Made Us Victors

God Made Us Victors

Today’s message was written by my friend Rev. Roger Kunkel, founder of Dial Hope.

I remember an old story about a family that had twin boys. One son grew up and became an alcoholic. When someone asked him why, he said, “Because of my father.” The other son grew up and became a minister, and he dedicated his ministry to working with and helping alcoholics. When someone asked him why, he said, “Because of my father.” The two sons grew up in the same environment. One was trapped, shackled, paralyzed, and pulled down by his situation. The other turned to God and rose above it all. 

Sometimes we hear people say, “I’m doing the best I can under the circumstances.” Well, a friend of Dial Hope, we don’t have to live under the circumstances. By the grace of God, we can rise above them. We don’t need to remain victims. God can make us victors. We know that with the help of God, we can rise above our circumstances. The Apostle Paul said, “l can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13). 

Lord, thank you for keeping us moving and growing and alive, but Lord, life can seem so complicated. We pray that in dealing with all the complexities of life, you would help us to learn the steps and the timing that will make us your effective workers and lead us each to develop his or her own choreography. 

Let us pray: Loving God, 
Help us to know when to embrace and when to let go; 
When to lean, when to stand alone; 
When to rest and when to dance; 
When to sit back and when to take a chance; 
When to follow and when to lead; 
When to doubt and when to believe; 
When to push and when to pull; 
When to take charge, when to flow; 
When to reflect and when to react; 
When to think and when to act. 
Thank you, Lord. 

Thank you, Lord, thank you so much for the gift of this day. Help us to make it a masterpiece. Now let love and hope break out like an epidemic. In Jesus’ name. Amen.